Let’s face it, waiting is hard. No one likes to wait…especially now with technology being able to provide us with instant gratification. It’s easy to give up and throw in the towel if wait times are long – I’ve seen it, I’ve been there.
We’ve forgotten that great things take time…beer, wine, cheese, souffles, relationships. Yes, relationships – especially Long Distance Relationships (LDRs). In relationships – especially LDRs, it’s easy to get caught up in each other; to get caught up in planning your next reunion; to get caught up in planning your eventual unification. Stop.
Planning is one thing; enjoying precious “now” moments is another, more important thing. Don’t get me wrong…planning is important…it gives your relationship a road map, if you will. Plan the next reunion and get caught up in it – get excited! It’s an expectation worth having; it keeps you connected. And, really, that’s as far out as you should realistically plan and expect to be able to execute.
Not all LDRs are on the same unification timeline. Some LDRs have a set time frame…we’ll be together at the end of this job assignment; or, we’ll be together at the end of this deployment…you get the picture. For those LDRs that are not fortunate enough to have a set time frame, expecting unity any further than your next reunion is maddening. But, don’t give up. Don’t throw in the towel.
Be patient and believe. Believe that what you’re waiting for, what you’re fighting for is worth the wait. Enjoy the fleeting moments you have together – you know the ones…the brief good morning text to start your day; or, the 10-minute FaceTime or Skype session during a break in the work day; or, the 30-minute phone call between dinner and bedtime. Be in the moment. I know it’s hard, boy, do I know that! But…you signed up for it – for the LDR that you’re in. Remember why you chose that…remember why you’re all in because that’s what will keep you both strong; that’s what will keep you both fighting for your eventual unification.
“We’re not promised tomorrow. So I’m gonna love you like I’m gonna lose you. I’m gonna hold you like I’m saying goodbye.”- Meghan Trainor Like I’m Gonna Lose You